Tuesday, November 18, 2008

Keepin It Real

I'm going to admit something.

Something I don't like to admit.

I am going through a rough patch with Sophia these days.

It is taking a toll on me.

I love her so completely.

She is awesome and fun and wonderful and silly and divalicious.

She is also clingy.

Like really bad clingy.

Like throw a tantrum clingy if I am not sitting, playing or holding her.

It is tough.

I feel like I don't know how to deal with this clingyness.

How do I teach her to not whine and be happy playing independently again?

It is hard not to get frustrated.

I don't know how to teach her that it is ok for mommy to wash dishes or cook dinner or do anything productive for that matter.

I'm not even out of her eye sight and she is devastated that I am not right there next to her.

She is also very sensitive if other kids are in her space.

I am going to find some fun classes for her.

I think we will do swimming lessons again.

I also want a class where she is interacting with other little ones.

She used to be a socialite. She loved chilling with her peeps.

Hopefully this phase will pass.

I just needed to share my struggles.

I love her so much and I don't like talking negative but I know some of you can relate.

Or you have been there done that.

Any advice out there for me?

Attempting to get a picture of her pigtails...

"But mommy can you just hold me please?"
I love you little stinker!

Her new thing is to pile all her toys in my lap..too cute!

She also loves to climb into her toy box and play.

She is also very into her dollies! I love it!


Jen said...

I remember that stage very well. It seemed like it was going to last forever, but of course it passed quickly. I think I read that babies are a lot more clingy (sometimes even waking up at night) when they are reaching a milestone (walking). It really will pass and I wouldn't worry that she will not learn to play on her own. She will go back to that eventually. Hang in there!

The Crocks said...

Girl... we are at the exact same stage as you right now!
If I try to do anything and she is not right next to me or I'm not holding her, it's an all out bawl fest over here!!!
I'm ready to pull all my hair out!
Hope the phase passes quickly for you, but know that you are not alone and it's totally okay to vent about your frustrations! :D Air kisses!!

amanda said...

totally understand friend. our 'clingy' time seems to be after she wakes up from her afternoon nap and up until about dinner time. exactly when i need to be getting dinner ready.

i get frustrated too but i keep trying to remind myself when she is 13 i will be begging her to come hang out with me in the kitchen :)

and ps the baby piggy tails are adorable!!

Scrappy Girl said...

Those piggy tails are SO cute! Clingy time is hard but like everyone said it is normal and it will pass.

Heather @ boy, girl, and a pug said...

Ella and Kyler were/still are the same way. Ella is ok during the day, but towards evening time she breaks. Kyler is just a mama's boy and has to be around me ALL THE TIME! It's ok though. I secretly love that he loves me so much and has to be around me all the time. Now if we could just get the whole Ella cranky thing figured out we would be good to go!

Good luck Mama. Just remember, she is going to grow up and you are going to want these clingy days back. Just savor it and soak it up. The cleaning, the laundry, and the dishes will totally wait. She is only going to be a baby girl for a little bit.